Write Your Own Story

Write Your Own Story

We often hear about the “right way” or the “right time” to do things. There are specific orders that are known to everyone. Go to school, then university or date someone, get married, have a baby etc. etc.

Society has normalised the belief that achieving certain milestones in certain ways or at certain ages is necessary and then perpetuates the idea that we are somehow flawed or incomplete if we don’t achieve them. The thing is, no matter what you do in life, there will always be an expectation for more. Someone will always ask “What next?”. You get your degree, someone will say “So, MA next?”. You appear single, people ask why you don’t have a partner. You have a partner and people ask when you are getting married. You get married and people want to know when you are having your first baby. You have your first baby and people want to know when you are having your second. Are you exhausted reading this? Because I am, just writing it.

Every single person in the world values different things at different times. Everyone has different milestones or things they want to achieve. For some people it might be having a family. For some it could be pursuing education, and for some it is both. Life is full of choices. There is often no one right way or wrong way to do anything. There is your way and that is the key.

You will never be happy if you try to satisfy what you think you should be doing. Likewise, if you do what you think others think you should be doing. You do not need to conform to these imaginary life timelines or milestones, because it will be futile; you will never be able to keep up because they will always change, and someone will always have an opinion.

The secret to your happiness, to really simplifying it and making it sustainable is to only do what makes you truly happy. When you focus on only that and erase everything else, you will make room for the things that you truly should be doing. When you are being true to yourself you will no longer feel like you are always running while simultaneously feeling stuck and unfulfilled.

You have created the life you are living right now through the thoughts and choices you have made, which proves you have the power to create the life you want. We create what we think, so all you need to do is think of who you believe you are and what you believe you should be doing.

Your thoughts are your words. Pick them wisely and write your own story. What have you got to lose? You can be afraid to do it, or you can be afraid AND do it.

“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky,

And you ask

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”

― Erin Hanson